Women Lie, Men Lie

What’s so hard about being faithful to the person that you’re with? Why choose to be in a relationship when you know you’re not committed? These questions are asked time and time again, mainly by females. But, studies shows that females cheat on their significant other just as much as males do. What makes it harder on guys, is that they tend to get caught in the act, and as for females, they are a lot sneakier in what they do. For years, women have shamed guys for their deceiving acts and have even referred to them as “dogs.”


So, let’s talk about the difference between lies guys tell when caught in the act, and the lies women tell. When a guy is caught in the act, he tends to involve his family and friends; for instance, you see a girl’s number in his phone, he’s been holding conversations with her through phone calls and text messages, and you confront him about it. Usually, he would say, “She’s a good friend of mine, baby”, or “Babe, that’s my cousin. You can call and ask my brother right now if you don’t believe me.” And, last but not least, “I was just trying to see if you trust me, so I was texting my homeboy’s sister and now my point is proven". (Then he goes on about how much he loves you and would never cheat on you) Most women fall for these lies, and some don’t. As far as catching a girl in the act, it takes a lot of detective work. For instance, a girl can go about cheating for a long time without getting caught. Many girls nowadays tend to have a lot more male friends then female friends, which is understandable because females bring a lot of drama to the table. But, some girls use that as a cover up, and that’s where it gets difficult for guys, because not all girls are messing around when they tell you they have more male friends then female friends. Females that use that excuse and that are cheating have a slight difference between the ones that aren’t cheating. When a female is cheating, she tends to be spending a lot more time with her “friends” than usual, and when you confront her about it, she will either seduce you and end up changing the subject, start a huge argument with you, turn the tables, and claim that you weren’t there for her when she needed you, or claim that you never showed her any attention, which will make you start feeling guilty. In most cases, males tend to fall for all of these lines. The girl that isn’t cheating, doesn’t get defensive, She will explain to you once or twice what’s going on, and then after that, she’s done with the conversation. Being asked repeatedly can lead to either a serious argument, or even a breakup.


So, why is it so hard for someone to stay faithful? And why do they choose to be in a relationship when they know they’re not ready to commit? It’s a question that can be asked by male and females alike, but only those who choose to cheat can really answer this.

Jennifer Leal (@jenleal88)