We're not monsters

So guys, you’re on a night out and you see an attractive girl – what’s the next step?  Do you approach her? I’ve heard on a few occasions that a stunning girl can be extremely intimidating to men, and, as a result, even though he may want to, he doesn’t speak to her.  However, this leads to the girl feeling like no one is attracted to her, and we don’t want that, do we? It’s easier than you may think to approach us, girls are not monsters, and we don’t bite (you get a few which may go against this theory but hey, that can’t be helped).  The worst that can happen is she tells you that she’s not interested, and then you haven’t lost anything anyway, have you? You may even get lucky and get a number, if not more!

So here are some tips. First of all, confidence is a definite plus. When I say confidence, I don’t mean arrogance – this can be a real turn off!  There’s a big difference: find it.  Start off with eye contact, if she smiles and gets a little shy by looking away, then you most likely have a chance.  Next, you can try talking to her – but don’t try this if you are steaming drunk, as it probably won’t work.  She’ll either ignore you or ask you to go away in a less-than-polite way.  Once you’ve approached her, just be flirty, compliment her, buy her a drink, ask her to dance, and hopefully you’ll have done everything right!  But remember guys, if she turns you down, don’t get immature and start insulting her, that will get you nowhere! You don’t always get everything you want – that’s life!

Lauren Maslanka